Two years ago, after dating
with my boyfriend of 4
years, we were starting to
talk about wedding, marriage
and having kids. I didn't know
why, but somehow, I just
couldn't visualise or imagine
us together? So, I took a big
step, to cool things off for
awhile, to think about what I
was really looking for in a
future partner.
At that point in time, I was
still taking my double
degree, had all the time in
the world, and since I didn't
know what I was really
looking for in a partner, I
ended up changing boyfriend
every 3months, to the
extent that none of my
friends in school bothers to
remember their names
anymore.
Surprisingly, I feel that it
helps me quite a lot. Mainly
because I was not really
emotionally attached to any
of these boyfriends (i like
them though), it made me
became more rational and
logical in my thinking's. I was
able to step out and see the
relationship in another
perspective.
From mama's boy, to a
nerdy, studious boy,
gangster, emo (goodness! he
cried 90% of the time we
spent together.),
bodybuilder, psychopath
(yes, and is hard to tell
whether he is lying or not.),
successful regional
manager, etc, until I met my
current boyfriend.
There are some
requirements you might
already have, for me, it was
just adding on to what I feel
every girl should deserved.
Here is a list you may want
to consider.
Having a guy who is
Thoughtful
Is a way of showing
appreciation on the things
you have done, or that he
has thought about you. Like,
helping you out with the
dishes or take the garbage
out (without you having to
say) while is your time to
relax after preparing for
dinner. Or perhaps, has he
bought anything for you
when he was out with his
friends the other day? Or
brought you some
sandwiches to the office
knowing that you will be too
busy to have your meal. He
doesnt have to do this all
the time, but if he loves you
enough, he would have his
moments of showing you
using by his actions.
Having a guy who is
Initiative
I know we girls are capable
of opening the door
ourselves, have the
strength to carry a pile of
books, but girls are still girls,
we love the idea of being
pampered by our guys, we
love to feel like princess no
matter how old we are, and
that we can rely on them.
The most important reason,
we love to show off and be
the envy of most girls.
Is he Mature enough
Whether he is alone with you
or he is with a group of
people, he seems to be
always the one talking or
commenting LOUDLY, as if
they are hoping that
someone else will hear them
too. Worst, he is always
complaining how lousy the
food is, how bad the
economy is, and yet thinking
that he is so smart to tell
everyone how he feels
about certain things, not
knowing how annoying he is.
Yes, he may make sense
and is brilliantly smart. But
trusted me, the mature ones
are mostly composed, with
poise, speak only when is
needed, and every
sentences create impact.
This is the kind of man you
will want to bring home to
show your parents.
Having a guy who is
Sensitive (Tactful)
I was at the shopping mall
with my girlfriends the other
day, and I overheard this
guy who was commenting to
his girlfriend's friend that
she should have kept her
long hair at the first place,
because short hair makes
her look like tomboy. Some
jokes may be funny, but
having a guy who kept on
teasing or joke about how a
girl look, or how she
dresses, is just insensitive
and purely rude. This is the
type of guy you would not
want. Regardless who is the
one being teased at, he is
just bad with his people's
skills.
He just went on and on
laughing about how big her
face was, obviously very
oblivious to the facial
expressions on the offended
looking friend, and the
embarrassed girlfriend.
Every girl wants a boyfriend
who is sensitive towards
their needs and also their
friend's feelings.
This is something you might
want to take note of when
you start dating, as some
girls may find it funny at
first, but later in the
relationship, this behaviour
could be very jeopardising.
At the first place, we do not
need a guy to make us feel
lousy or to bring us down.
Is he Humourous
Some things in life are not
meant to be funny, but can
he cheer you up and make
you laugh when you are
down?
Do you guys have the
Chemistry
Do the two of you have
things to talk about? Will he
be able to sense and come
to your rescue when you are
in a sticky situation at his
cousin's wedding? Do you
guys have the chemistry
together? When you dont
feel like talking, does he
stays by your side, just to
be around, and there is no
sense of awkward silence?
Having a guy who is
Respectful in the things
he does
He is proud of the things he
does, he is full of drive,
ambitious, gentleman, and
you have a lot of respect
for him. If he is just a lazy,
useless couch potato, who
just live day to day, you will
most probably end up
resenting him.
Having a guy who has
Similar Values / Goals
If you are family oriented,
and you loves kids, find a
guy who has the same value
as you. Remember, you cant
change someone, so do not
think you can in the future.
A guy who isn't Shy to
express his love for you
A guy should say that he
loves you because he really
meant it, not because you
want him to. Hold on to a guy
who makes you feel loved
and will say it.
He allows you to Be
Yourself
Lastly, the guy who thinks
greatly of you. Thinks you
are the most beautiful
woman in the world, even on
days you feel gross and
unglamorous.
So, what exactly are you
looking for?
Belinda Guo is a Dedicated
Relationship Advisor who has
Helped Many Couples
Enhance Their Love
Relationship.
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