You may not realize it, but
there are certain things
which a woman should ask a
man in order to set the
pace, boundaries, and
direction of a relationship.
Women, who fail to ask the
right questions, always end
up getting strung along in a
relationship.
A woman, who gets strung
along, generally finds that a
guy does whatever he
wants, when he wants
without much consideration
of her wants or desires.
But that's because she
never clarified or asked, so
he thinks everything is fine
and that she is happy,
because she isn't saying
otherwise; and goes after
his own desires. This would
mean that men, who want to
use women, end up doing it;
and men who want to take
women for granted, end up
doing it etc...
This is why it's extremely
important to ask the right
questions early on, so that
you don't throw yourself into
a vicious cycle where a man
uses you like a door mat.
Moreover, the questions you
ask help you direct him into
knowing what exactly it is
that you want, and help a
man give you what you want.
Here are the 25 questions
which every woman should
ask a man:
1. What are your personal
goals?- You SHOULD know
what it is that he wants to
do outside of a relationship,
because he is going to want
to do them. Most women get
in the way of a man's
personal goals, because
they want all of his goals to
involve her. Accept that not
all of his goals involve you,
as they were formed before
you...and some simply will not
involve you regardless.
2. What was your
childhood like?- Knowing a
man's childhood is like being
given a key to
understanding everything he
is about, because it will
explain why he is the way he
is. This is something every
woman should know from
top to bottom.
3. What are your
insecurities? - These little
devils will pop up out of
nowhere if you don't ask and
don't get clarification. When
they do surface, they
usually ruin and destroy
everything good, so it's
something you MUST
discuss and find out early
on, so that you know how to
handle it or you are aware
that it's just insecurity when
it surfaces.
4. What career path are
you interested in? - This is
a direction every woman
should be aware of, because
it could involve him moving
away, or having to spend a
lot of time at work etc...
5. What do you expect
from a relationship? - Not
everyone's idea of a
relationship is the same. It's
good to clarify this early on
and figure out what a
relationship really is to him.
6. What do you want out
of life? - This encompasses
everything he expects to
accomplish out of life, if that
includes his career, a family,
financial success etc... in
essence, it's all of the major
goals he has for himself
until he dies.
7. What can't you stand? -
Imagine if you spent your
entire time doing everything
he hates, because he never
tells you? This is how 99.9%
of relationships are, and it's
why they fail, because
women never actually know
that it is that they are doing
wrong, and they never find
out what it is that their man
actually can't stand. It's
good to know his boundaries
here.
8. Do you want children? -
Some couples never discuss
this, so when one of the
partners declares they'd like
kids, they are shocked and
torn apart when they realize
their partner never did. If
you want children, and even
if you don't you need to ask
him if that's something he is
looking forward to or not.
9. What were your past
relationships like? - A
person's relationship past
can show you patterns in
their personality. It is also
good to know, to find out if a
man still hasn't moved on, if
they have baggage, if they
are the cheating type etc...
which is not something you
want to find out later.
10. What attracts you to
women? - A general
question that goes beyond
the superficial. Everyone has
their unique idea of an ideal
partner; it is good to know
what is actually ideal and
attractive to a man in the
first place.
11. What expectations do
you have on yourself? - A
man's expectations on
himself will rub off onto
everyone else that he
encounters, if they don't fall
into those expectations; but
more importantly, a man's
expectations of himself can
determine his reactions and
actions toward many things.
12. What are your views
on spirituality? - Religion
matters to some, to others
it does not. However, it is
important to find out if it
does matter to your partner,
and where they stand on it,
and if they can accept you
into their life with the beliefs
they have.
13. What do you expect
from a partner? - What
does he want from you?
What does he need? What
things are the most
important to him, from a
woman? What kinds of things
is he looking for from his
partner?
14. Describe your family
and friends? - Who are
they, what are they about,
how does the family
function, what kinds of
relationships are there etc...?
All of this shaped who he is
today, and may shape his
ideas on the kind of
relationship he wants. Get to
know his family and friends.
15.What do you think
about marriage and
commitment?- We are
coming to an era where
people are evenly drawn
between marriages and
simply dating. Some believe
it's better to date and stay
in a long term relationship
without marriage, because
they believe things are fine
as they are. Others believe
marriage is the way. Some
men, on the other hand only
believe in short term
relationships. It is good to
know where he stands on
the subject, so that you can
clarify where you stand.
16. What is your sexual
history? - It is good to
know what a partner's
sexual history was, for
obvious safety reasons
(STD's); but also to
understand how your
partner views sexuality and
intimacy to begin with.
17. What role does a
woman play in a
relationship?- Find out
what purpose he believes
you would fulfill in a
relationship with him. For
instance, some men think
that a woman should not
work, is that something he
believes should be your
role?
18.What is your financial
situation? - Regardless of
whether or not you are
financially independent, you
should know this. Finances
support a person's way of
life, so you should be aware
on a general level of his
financial standing; because
financial problems and even
success can bear a lot of
stress or problems for a
man.
19. What is your stance on
intimacy and sex? - When
does he think it is alright to
initiate intimacy? What kinds
of fantasies or desires does
he have in that area? What
does he expect?
20. What is loyalty to you?
- Does he believe in
monogamy? What is his idea
of loyalty? What kind of
loyalty does he expect?
21. How do you define
love? - Some men may not
believe in it, others may
think it's the only way. Some
may say its conditional,
others say it's unconditional.
It's good to know how a man
defines love, because that
sets the emotional pace for
the relationship.
22. What are your worst
life experiences? -
Knowing where a man came
from and how he overcame
it can show you where he
plans on going in the future.
Also, there could have been
life changing events,
traumatic events, etc... which
you should be aware of,
because those can affect
him now depending on the
severity.
23. What are your
successes? - What are his
best experiences, what has
he accomplished? These are
things he has worked on,
and can show you where his
interests lie, but also HOW he
tackles things and how he
wins.
24. What are your worst
fears? - To some, it could
be commitment; to others it
could be bankruptcy. You
should know what kinds of
things hold him back, or
make him afraid...as those
can get in the way of
everything if they surface
or become triggered.
Remember they are his
WORST fears.
25. What do you want to
know about me? -
Sometimes a man won't ever
ask things, because he
doesn't feel the floor is
open to ask. Let him know
that he can ask you
anything, and be open to his
questions without judging
them or criticizing the things
he is asking. This question is
important to let a guy know
that he CAN get to know you
and CAN know the things he
wants to, and there are
most definitely things he
wants to know.
A woman who understands a
man, is a woman who will
always know EXACTLY what
to do in any situation. I have
taken the time to break
down a man's mind clearly
so that women can use the
information to drastically
improve their dating life.
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